What precisely Your blinds Individuals, Binds Individuals - The authentic Scenario for Drama!

 Getting caught up in the drama of our lives blinds us from reality and seeing the simplicity in the moment. As I'm writing this up on the rooftop deck of my friend's apartment complex, I'm amazed at the beauty of the afternoon (pictures included). To my right is Lake Michigan and the sandy shore line that hugs it. In front of me, is the view of John Hancock and the Magnificent Mile. A carpet of green trees and bright rooftops lay below. A blue sunny sky looms above. A white bikini clad young woman lies to my right, sunning on a black wrought iron chaise three chairs over. I really could observe how easy it should be to be so caught up in the events of my entire life that even the serenity and wonderment of such views can be overshadowed by drama's stories, grieves and hurts.Dramacool

The difficult and painful events that have occurred within our past and our fears about the future blurs our vision and keeps us stuck in a quagmire of deceit. So caught up are we in the drama of our lives that we quite often neglect to notice how blue is the sky or green will be the trees roughly white is the bikini. Our anatomies might physically be in the "here and now" but our minds definitely are not.

Drama binds us to the past and holds our future captive. We tend to trust that our responses to recent events are derived from present feelings when in reality they represent unfinished, unresolved and uncompleted emotions. We often don't note that drama keeps us in the problem of the past within our present. Kept limited to our dramas, we never heal and we never grow. What we are able to study from new experiences never present themselves because we dilute the lesson with drama.

An episode is just a deep and very personal story of what the "event" meant to us. It is an engineered story of the "what is" by providing the "what is" an individual meaning. An illustration: imagine you are driving down the expressway at a safe speed. Someone in a sports vehicle races behind you, quickly swerves to your lane and manages to cut you off before driving away. The truth of "what is" is that someone is speeding and quickly swerves into your lane. The non-public story or drama that you just created at the time can be "Exactly what a jackass! He must think I'm driving too slow and that I'm not really a good enough driver. At this moment we take the function personally. Another reality: your spouse walks from the marriage. Your drama is: "I'm unworthy of love" or "I can't trust anybody anymore, I'll just get hurt again if I remarry."

How we are able to "grow" from drama is to acknowledge the difference between what is reality and what is drama. The truth is just an event separate from any emotions (I got fired from my job / I acquired divorced). Drama is our personal story, the reason why, we make up of how the function affects us and what it means to our lives (My boss is just a real jackass / I'm unlovable). We always want to create meaning in everything that occurs within our lives. Healing and growing starts by understanding the difference between what is reality and what is fiction and then just accepting the function as it is (I no further have a job) without the drama.

I understand easier said then done. Sometimes it's in the story and the private meaning behind it that produces life interesting but once the story repeats itself time and time again in a constant cycle, the function never dies. It consistently repeats itself in similar situations even with years of the initial occurrence; old feelings of hurt are resurrected. (I text her but she didn't text back. She mustn't like me and anybody who doesn't text me right me straight away as time goes on should also mean they don't love me as well. Love blows!). Drama doesn't allow us to grow into mature experienced adults rather we remain emotionally stagnant at this it's occurrence.

The dramas within our lives are manufactured by made-up untrue beliefs while denial shrouds the actual issues. We reach awaken from the drama once we accept the fact we have the greatest power to turnaround our lives. If we are able to create negative thoughts and emotions then we're also able to produce a positive spin for a passing fancy event. Change the thought and emotions into something positive that will empower us and inspire others and consequently we reach take back control within our lives. By accepting the function as what it is will free us from the emotional bond as it demonstrates that only our jobs or relationships are ending and not our lives. This can be carried out by writing out a set of what is happening without attaching the emotions connected with it. In the case of losing work your list might include:

1. I have already been fired
2. I no further have work
3. I will have to find a fresh job
4. I haven't any income
5. I have little savings

After reading over your notes and removing most of the drama or unworthiness, fear, blame and guilt can disappear. The important points have presented itself in a way as possible address each issue to create solutions that now you can handle and benefit from. Acceptance will allow you to detach from the drama so that you will have a way to see your lifetime separate from the emotions as fear and any negativity is washed away. You feel an outside observer in the events letting you effectively, clearly and without the judgments control of your reactions and your life.

In the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous, acceptance is one of many big creeds that enable its members to higher handle their lives. Inside, it states: "Acceptance is the solution to any or all my problems today. When I'm disturbed, it is really because I find some person, place or thing, or situation -some fact of my life- unacceptable in my experience, and I will get no serenity until I accept see your face, place, thing or situation as being the way it is allowed to be at this moment."